What does it mean to be nourished?
Fulfilled, satisfied, content, happy?
Full of what, exactly?
Energy, vitality, motivation.
Stillness, quiet, calm.
Movement, forward motion, hope and faith in the future.
Love, acceptance, time to dream and time to be.
Learning, being challenged, feeling safe.
These are some things that come to mind for me.
Here’s what the Cambridge dictionary has to say about the verb Nourish:
- to provide people or living things with food in order to make them grow and keep them healthy:
- If you nourish a feeling, belief, or plan, you think about it a lot and encourage it.
So my recap is:
To provide people with “sustenance” in order to make them grow and keep them healthy.
To think about the beliefs and feelings you need to support the dreams (growth and health) you desire.
What is your form of nourishment for your body? Your mind? Your Soul? And even your home?
What do you feed yourself on a daily or weekly basis to keep you growing and healthy?
Organic…veggies, meats fish, milks? Everything? (At least as much as possible?)
You make an effort, right? Because you care about your health, the health of your family, and the environment. You do your best to choose wisely and consciously and when you know better, you do better.
But what about the thoughts and feelings you feed yourself?
How healthy are they?
Are they nourishing you with what you need to grow and keep you healthy?
We spend so much time, money and energy on buying our organic foods and, yet, let the quality of our thoughts deplete us into exhaustion, overwhelm, anxiety, and low self-esteem.
We spend time every single day thinking about the food we eat or want to eat or shouldn’t eat or can’t eat…
Yet we spend very little time noticing our thoughts.
And why should we care about this?
Because our thoughts run the show.
What if I told you that you don’t have to believe everything you think. Did you know that not everything you think or even believe is True?
I know; it’s incredible when you realize this. In fact, it’s life changing!
Instantly, you find your power! But so often we forget that we have this choice in the first place. We stumble along with our icky thoughts and let them ruin our day, stress us out, and leave us feeling depleted and less than.
One of the best ways I know how to challenge my beliefs is to ask myself if what I am believing/thinking is actually true, like unequivocally true.
Sounds simple, I know. Because it is.
But let’s try it out. Here’s an example:
I suck at marketing.
This thought has some pretty deep grooves in my brain since becoming a mostly online entrepreneur. The beliefs that feed into it go like this:
There’s too much to know. I’m not an expert. I’ll never learn it all. Online marketing changes all the time. I have no idea what I’m doing. Why should I bother?
And these all lead me back to: I suck at marketing.
When I believe this thought, I feel defeated, unmotivated, sad, low energy, and even angry.
When I’m feeling like this, I basically procrastinate, feel sorry for myself, keep busy doing other things other than my work that I want to be marketing, and feel pretty shitty at the end of the day as I didn’t accomplish what I wanted…you get the idea.
So let’s find out if this thought is actually true. Do I suck at marketing?
Well, my instinct is to say, Well, yes, I do suck at marketing.
But when I go a little deeper, sit with the question for a minute and ask, Is it absolutely 100% true that I suck at marketing?…well, a brief window opens up in my brain that it may not be true 100% of the time.
A-ha! This is what I want. This is what I want for you. To at least see that there is a possibility of something that is actually truer than the painful belief I am currently letting run the show.
When I dig around for a truer thought, I find this:
I am new to marketing and find it overwhelming and I’m doing the best I can with what I know.
Um, wow! I instantly feel better. I feel relief in my chest and my gut. I feel a sense of pride that I am trying to figure things out. I feel compassion for my overwhelmed, insecure self. I have more energy, focus and a sense of purpose.
So here’s what’s important to know: the Truth (yes, capital T) always feels more peaceful than the Lie.
If you’re feeling like shit, check your thoughts. Find the thoughts that bring you closer to peace and know that those are the ones that are closer to what’s true for you.
So back to this concept of NOURISHMENT.
I suck at marketing does pretty much nothing to help me grow or be healthy. And it’s not a belief I want to think about often or encourage, for the obvious reasons stated above.
(And to all you “tough love” junkies out there who think that using derogatory and insulting language is the way to motivate yourself to do better, I encourage you to check how your body feels when you say those things to yourself versus when you speak with kindness and understanding.)
Giving myself the opportunity to believe, I am new to marketing and find it overwhelming and I’m doing the best I can with what I know, most definitely gives me the compassion and grace to move forward into a healthier version of myself that allows for growth.
So next time you pick out your organic strawberries or kale, use it as a reminder to see what other ways you can nourish yourself, from the inside out.
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If you’re anything like me, you’re pretty much thrilled when the summer comes to an end because the kiddos head back to school.
Yes, our hearts are full of wonderful summer memories made, but our nervous systems are shot from the overstimulation and constant “being on” that kids and summer requires of us during summer “vacation”.
So this year I did something crazy just as school started up again: I found my courage, ditched my family, and gifted myself a Labor Day weekend completely alone.
Why might this be courageous, you may be wondering? Because I could have found a zillion excuses as to why this was a bad idea. I could have let guilt wash over me, “Good moms and wives don’t ditch their families for 3 nights to go be alone right at the start of back-to-school”. But I didn’t.
In giving myself this gift, I took my frazzled, over-stimulated self into a place of quiet so I could come home rejuvenated and ready for the new year. I knew this. My husband knew this.
Except I wasn’t expecting what happened to happen.
But before I go there, let’s recap some of the highlights from this experience:
- Being alone (duh, isn’t that enough? I know!!)
- Not having to take care of anyone else (do you know how good this feels for a change?)
- Eating when I want (following my own natural schedule)
- Eating exactly what I want without anyone complaining!
- Not being interrupted while enjoying my coffee, wine, journaling, reading, creating, sleeping, showering, shopping, cooking, and just being there in silence…
- Feeling freer and more authentic than I have felt in months and months!
- Feeling playful and goofy and 100% untethered
- Feeling completely in spiritual alignment
- Noticing the nature around me like never before: butterflies, birds, ladybugs, leaves, trees, the wind, the smell in the air
- Moving as slowly or as quickly as I wanted throughout my day
- Being able to sit in silence and not worry when it would end, when my peace would be disrupted or interrupted. I could really be in the moment more fully without this anticipation. It was so interesting to notice how in anticipating the arrival of a child home, the questions, the demands, the noise, the beautiful energy of our kids…it all plays into how we can live “on edge” to a certain extent…always “ready” to be in response to someone else.
What I wasn’t expecting in all of this glorious alone time was in discovering how unconsciously we live “in anticipation of” being interrupted, being asked to adjust our plans, not having things work out as we hoped, having to intervene, having to slow down, etc. In and of themselves, none of these are bad. To the contrary, we need to be able to go with the flow if we want to have any semblance of “succeeding and enjoying” parenting.
My surprise was more in the awareness I developed while being completely alone that I live in this unconscious way most of the time. And I’m guessing you do too. In fact, I’m pretty sure it’s normal. There’s nothing inherently wrong with it. It just is.
But this confirms my belief even further that when we’re alone on our own, we reconnect to our deepest selves. We reconnect to our own rhythms that aren’t dictated by anyone else. We lower the noise, amp up the quiet, and are able to hear the whispers of our own needs and desires.
So let’s just acknowledge how differently we can experience life when we’re not living unconsciously “in anticipation of”. When we can live for moment after moment in a state of being. I feel calmer and quieter just typing that! The question now becomes, how do I bring that into my “regular” life?
My weekend away nourished me like nothing else I have done in a very long time. It allowed me to stop being Mom and reconnect to me, Marieke. My own desires, wishes, dreams, and schedule. It was total and utter freedom.
Our hearts and lives are so beautifully entangled with our children’s. We wouldn’t trade the love and experience of motherhood for anything.
But trading in the caring of others, even for a short time, to focus solely on yourself is life changing. And frankly, it’s also a declaration that says, “Hey, my own needs matter. My connection to myself as a complete woman (not just a mom) matters. I matter!”
I came home so radiant that my husband suggested I do this every quarter. Didn’t see that one coming either!
I think the most beautiful thing to come out of this experience is that not only am I coming home nourished and replenished, but my family reaps the rewards from my experience as well. I am modelling for my daughters how to ask for what they need and that no one else is responsible for my needs but me. I’m my best advocate and it’s up to me to make sure my needs are met, even when it means taking a “leave of absence” for a few days from my life as Mom.
And the cherry on top is that in caring for myself, I can ultimately care for them even more deeply. And that fills my soul right up!
Here’s a selfie video I took while away on my weekend alone. It’s about giving ourselves the permission to want to be alone and that nothing has to be wrong in your life to want alone time! Go get it, as I say! 😉
I was out walking this morning in one of our beautiful parks here in Montréal and thinking more deeply about my WHY. Listening to a Tony Robbins podcast will do that to you.
WHY do I do what I do (life coaching)? In case you don’t know, I figured I would explain it. And to be honest, the truth of why I do what I do hit me hard this morning. In fact, I’ve never quite articulated it this way before, at least not out loud.
So here goes:
I believe that we all need help now and then…to work through confusion, strong emotions, when we’re feeling stuck or unhappy or wanting something in life to change but not knowing how to make it happen.
When I was 15, my grandfather died very suddenly and I was DEVASTATED. I asked my mom if I could see a psychologist to work through my emotions and the many existential questions I had about GOD, death and the meaning of life.
When I was 17 and in my senior year, I got kicked out of boarding school (!) and felt like the biggest loser of all time (but I also felt super free and excited in a way which left me riddled with guilt) and again asked to see a therapist to help me make sense of my “life” and my “angst” and my strained relationship with my parents.
When I was in university and had relationship issues, I again sought out help. And again and again over the years, I have looked for support in different ways. Therapists, coaches, spiritual healers, astrologers, friends, journals, and even my dog.
It’s normal. It’s healthy. And, I would argue, it’s actually necessary!
We don’t live in a vacuum of existence, alone. We live in community. In dialogue with our families, our friends, our lovers, our kids, our work, emotions, and expectations. Life is complex and we are asked everyday to navigate it in relation to others.
Why would we ever believe we should be able to do this thing called LIFE on our own?
Life is so fucking wonderful a lot of the time and also so fucking hard some of the time. And we all need a safe space to land when life feels hard or when we feel lost or scared or have no idea what we want!
Sometimes we have friends and family we can talk to. Sometimes we’re able to work through things on our own. But sometimes…we just know that we need something else.
Someone else to help us reconnect to ourselves. To achieve what we want. To make sense of what we feel.
A non-judgmental, compassionate person to help us help ourselves out of the dark hole we find ourselves in. A person that will hold our hand (metaphorically), hold our heart, hold the most tender parts of us without any attachment to what we do or don’t do.
Sometimes, we just want to be heard. Really and truly heard. Because when we are heard, when we can speak our truth aloud and know that we are safe in it’s presence, we can let go. We can breathe. We can accept what is. And we can move forward. One step in front of the other, one day at a time.
The power that arises in us when we speak our truth aloud is transformative and life changing. Even when it feels scary to do it, which is all the more reason to do it in a safe space with a trusted guide.
As someone who needs this safe space myself, craves this safe space, and values this safe space to open up myself to the Truth within me, I want to offer this safe space to others. It’s my WHY and why I do what I do.
Because we all deserve a safe space to be heard. Because we all know how epically shitty it feels to not trust anyone to “handle” the tender bits of our most authentic souls with the care we deserve.
We deserve a compassionate witness to help us make sense of our own hearts and confusion. We deserve a place to speak our truth, where we know we won’t be ridiculed, mocked or made to feel ashamed. It’s scary to say aloud what’s deep in our hearts. I know!
We need support to seek out our truth, to find it, and then to speak it aloud!
This is not for the faint of heart….all this truth-seeking. But when you know you need help, you know. And you seek.
So let me hold you tenderly as we explore together who you are, what you want and why you want it.
Maybe you want a new career? Or you’ve got general life dissatisfaction, for “no reason” and you feel guilty about that? Or maybe you want to create healthier habits? Or improve your relationships? Or feel less overwhelmed?
Maybe you have BIG goals or maybe you just know you need some accountability to make some small but powerful changes in your life?
Whatever “it” is, I am here to provide the safe environment you crave so you can finally let it all out and explore what you truly want…with a gentle guide by your side. You’re not alone.
And if you’re wondering what the difference is between therapy and coaching, you are right to be curious, especially because there is some overlap and since coaching is still a relatively “new” option for support compared to traditional therapy.
I have experience with both therapy and coaching. I have clients that have done both too. One is not exclusive of the other. However, according to the American Psychological Association, “therapy encourages awareness of past injuries in order to promote insight and healing, whereas coaching focuses on untapped present possibilities in order to link awareness to action”.
Basically, coaching is action-oriented and forward thinking, whereas therapy is more talking about the past to inform your present. Either way, you’ll probably get the help you deserve.
So if you’re feeling called to get some support with wherever you are in life right now, know that I am one option, among many.
But my genius, if you will, is offering a safe (non-judgmental), beautiful, compassionate, and sometimes even FUN space for you to land to explore whatever’s tugging at your heart and in your soul.
Your Truth deserves your attention. I invite you to honor that.
Summer vacation has only just begun and I am already finding my patience waning with a deep need to be alone!
Camp doesn’t start for another week. And even then, it’s only two weeks long. YIKES!
It’s going to be a long summer if these feelings keep up, boy!
I figure I’m not alone here, dealing with the incessant demands and constant interruptions as I attempt to work (from my home office) or prolong my morning coffee (now that we’re on “summertime”).
Those long days with the kids at school seems like such a faded memory and it’s only been a little over a week. Eeek!
My mind easily goes to super judgmental thoughts like:
- What the hell is wrong with you?
- Can’t you see how lucky you are that you have your kids here, with you?
- You have the freedom to work from home and enjoy this precious, fleeting time with them…and you’re choosing to complain or be annoyed?
Yup. I am.
I am that mom, in this very moment, right now as I write this.
The one who loves her kids more than anything else in life and who wants cuddles and kisses and to spend time with them exploring the world and doing nothing at all…and yet, I have all these feelings too of wanting to get far away from them, to be alone, to not cook for them and to certainly not play camp counselor or lego friends or any other shitty game that bores me to death!
I feel guilty even writing this, but let’s be honest and truthful here:
I can still be an amazing, loving, giving, generous, caring, funny, and awesome mom while having feelings and thoughts like the ones above.
It’s what I choose to do with those thoughts and feelings that ultimately define me and determine how I live, mother, and show-up in the world.
Do I allow my frustrations to show up in anger and screaming (which they do sometimes, again, let’s be honest)? Or do I, instead, invite them in with a curious eye so they can help point me to my deeper needs?
The latter feels the best, every time.
Here are the exact 4 steps I use CALM DOWN when all I’m about to LOSE MY FREAKING MIND on my innocent kiddos.
Disclaimer: this takes practice but it is doable!
Step one: Notice and Name
- Notice how you feel (frustrated, angry, irritated, hurt, tired, overwhelmed, etc.) Bonus points if you can figure out where you feel it in your body!
- Name the feeling (s)
- Just this process alone brings you a sense of clarity and calm because now you know what you’re dealing with versus simply just feeling shitty and out of sorts.
Step two: Identify the need
- Ask yourself what you need to release the negative feeling (s).
- This means you have to allow yourself a quiet moment to sit with the feeling (s).
- Imagine the feelings are gone, how did that happen? Here are some suggestions:
- Time alone
- Less time with a certain person
- Take-out instead of cooking
- More sleep
- More fun
- More structure
- Less structure
Step three: Make a plan
- Now that you know what you need, ask for it
- Yes, this means asking for help! (not always easy, I know!)
- Talk to your kids about your needs and brainstorm with them how you can get what you want (kids are actually super resourceful and want to be helpful)
- Take turns with a friend or neighbor to watch the kid (s) for an morning or afternoon or even a sleepover!
- Tag-team with your partner (I’ll take the morning, you take the afternoon)
- Give them extra screen time so you can take care of you (it won’t kill them)
- Ask them to find a project they can do alone, so you can use that time to tend to your needs without being interrupted
- Adjust your schedule to make room for your needs (earlier bedtime, saying No to invites that end up feeling like too much, or saying Yes to invites that feel like fun but you always find an excuse not to go)
- Hire a babysitter or barter services with someone
Step four: Try it out!
- Even if you’re not 100% convinced this plan will work to alleviate your shitty feelings, GIVE IT A TRY! You will never know until you try (which is a great life motto, btw).
- Try it at least once and see how you feel afterwards.
- Did you feel lighter, more relaxed, and a little less frustrated after giving yourself what you needed?
- Notice the small shifts in your feelings, in your body, in how you show up for your family.
When I follow these steps, I always feel better. Yes, sometimes I feel like I could have used more than what I got (time alone, sleep, more nights with no cooking), but tending to my own needs does refill my cup. And while one break may not refill it completely, it helps to ensure that I am not running on empty.
Because as we all know, we can’t fill anyone else’s cups when ours have nothing left to give.
I want to love my kiddos hard with lots of focused attention, fun and games, explorations and chill time! I like to think I do this often and well.
Yet, I can also very easily lose my mind when my own needs aren’t taken care of. And it’s MY JOB to take care of them.
So here’s to a summer that feels as good as you want, because knowing that we each have the ability to take care of ourselves is deeply powerful!
Here’s to taking care of ourselves, together.
In November of 2015, I attended a Hay House conference in NYC. During that conference, I had the pleasure of hearing Kris Carr (the super inspiring woman behind CrazySexyCancer) speak about saying YES to your life.
I was a brand new life coach at the time and was so full of energy, ambition and hope for my future and business and clients and self!
I came home from Montréal ready to say YES to so much more in my life. One of those things was saying YES to an office space, outside my home.
I had been working on my dining room table, in the middle of our open-concept home for the past year and I was intensely craving some private space to call my own.
Within a week or so after coming back from that trip to NYC, I found a teeny office space a five-minute walk from my home. The rent was cheap and it was perfect. My heart was filled with excitement, pride and gratitude. My lease started on December 1st. I carefully picked out my IKEA furnishings and set up shop.
2016 was an amazing year in my business. I was living my dream. And my little office space was my sanctuary. I relished in having my own, sacred spot. It was no one’s but mine.
My name was on the door and my name was on the directory in the front of the building. I felt like I had “arrived”. It had always been my dream to have an office on the prestigious Boulevard St-Joseph, where signs for Psychologists, Therapists, and Oral surgeons abound.
But as the year came to a close (and as a the result of a health scare that turned out to be nothing) I had decided to make some changes in my life and business.
I needed to go inward, to further excavate my own authentic self, to bring her forth more deeply into my work. And I needed to have more fun! I was taking this whole “work” thing very seriously and it was starting to feel draining rather than what I had envisioned when I first said YES to changing careers and becoming a Life Coach.
So 2017 was my year for going deeply inward. I did an intense 3-month course, Pillars of Genius, which helped me identify my “genius” more clearly.
I gave myself a lot of space to reflect (meaning less clients), travel, just be and have the fun I was craving…although looking back it wasn’t always all that fun.
It was “work” of a different kind. As anyone who has done deep, inner work can attest.
I did a lot of it at home. In my living room, in my kitchen, from my bed. The dining room that had previously served as my desk was now long gone, sold off once we realized, after it had become my desk, that we mostly ate in the kitchen anyway.
And, truth be told, I felt awful a lot of the time. I felt guilty for the empty space my office had become. It sat there, untended to and uncared for, as I sat comfortably at home, with my dog at my feet. Or on my bed. “Surely this was no way to conduct a business. Get yourself to your fucking office, woman!”
But I couldn’t. I just couldn’t. And I certainly couldn’t understand WHY.
Once I finally admitted this aloud (because we all know how much easier it is to keep things concealed when we don’t speak them aloud), I got coached on it. And coached on it, and coached on it.
I finally had a breakthrough and discovered that I felt “safer” at home going through my metamorphosis than being in my office. I needed the comfort and safety of home to really allow myself to dig into the inner work I was committed to doing.
“Fair enough”, I thought. “This feels true.”
Well, it turns out all that inner work actually did produce something tangible in the world, as My Field Guide (the sixty page coaching guidebook I created) was born and I held the first copy in my hands at the very end of 2017. I was euphoric!
The creation of this guidebook came to be during the summer months, so when September came around, I had more clarity, purpose and a product I was producing. I was ready to go.
Except, I still didn’t have this whole “weird relationship I have with my office” thing figured out quite yet until…
I realized I wanted to have a home office AND an office away from home. I even wrote about it here and it was such an A-HA moment for me at the time. I felt like I had finally given myself the permission I didn’t even realize I needed to have two offices. For whatever reason, I felt like I had been holding myself back from this desire. YES, this felt like truth!
So I bought myself a desk for home and declared to my husband, who also works from home, that I would be spending more time “officially” working from home (because all the hours spent in the living room, the kitchen and our bed were not “official” enough for me, I guess).
Except…I bet you can guess what happened next!
I still felt resistance going to my rented office. WTF was going on?
I was SO confused and the guilt I was feeling for 1. paying for a space I was hardly using, and 2. not feeling motivated to go to my office and making it mean ALL sorts of things about myself, was really starting to fuck with me.
So I got coached again and again, and I came to a different level of understanding this time around.
The this is the real hard truth: I was lonely.
BOOM! That hit me hard. you know truth by the way it feels and this felt true (peaceful, sad, and right).
Being an entrepreneur can be really freaking lonely. I missed having colleagues to see first thing in the morning. I missed team meetings and lunch dates. I missed the camaraderie.
I was alone now, most of the time. And my little office space felt even lonelier than staying home, as I was usually alone in our office suite too (a space shared with two other practitioners that worked primarily during hours I was not there).
Not to mention, there was no communal space or kitchen, just a tiny waiting room and our individual offices. Showing up to our dark space, turning the lights on and being alone, when I could be home with my dog and on my bed or make a delicious lunch and curl up on my couch for my call with a client, well…you can guess which one won out time and time again.
So I finally made the decision to say goodbye and move into my home office, full-time.
And, people, I’m scared!
As I write this, I am here in my rented office (see the pic below). This will be the last time I sit here, as I move out this weekend.
When I popped in the other day, there was music actually playing in the waiting room, and I could hear the muffled voices of the other practitioners with their clients. The sun was streaming in ever-so-perfectly through my window, the birds were chirping outside.
And so I stood there for a moment, taking it all in. And then the thoughts starting coming at me:
“What was I doing letting this gem of a space go? Oh my god, I made a mistake! It’s not too late; I can tell Bianca (my landlord) that I’m staying. She’ll be so happy. I’ll be so happy. YAY!”
Deep breathes. More deep breathes. This was crazy talk and I knew it.
So I did what I needed to stop the spinning and get super clear on what I wanted.
I sat down at my desk, grabbed a piece of paper, and wrote out what it would look like if I came to my office everyday…held regular office hours for myself here, in this space. Because that was the only way I could justify even considering hanging onto it. No more office at home.
Then I wrote out what it would like to be at home, same regular hours.
Well, let me tell you, my body spoke loud and clear. Even though my mind seemed to want to convince myself that this space was just perfect and it made so much sense to keep it, my body led the way to my truth.
I felt constricted when I imagined coming here regularly.
I felt EXPANSIVE when I saw myself at home.
Why? To be honest, I don’t quite know. My mind certainly didn’t like the answers my body gave me.
But what I do know is that I trust the guidance my body is providing me. I trust in the unknown of this decision. I trust that my resistance all these months is for a reason that is going to make sense in the near future. I trust, I trust, I trust.
And just so we’re clear, I am still having moments of freaking out. “What if I never find a place this cute or affordable? What if this is the beginning of the end of your business? What if just knowing you have nowhere else to go drives you mad.”
You get the drift. Right?
So I bring myself back to my trust, to my body, to the truth I feel in my soul.
I wanted to share some of these truths that have come to me in the last few months with you:
- Having a rented office space does not mean you are more professional.
- I can coach a client just as well from my bed as I can from my office space. (Um, I think I should mention here that I coach over the phone or video. Actually having a client on my bed with me WOULD be very unprofessional. LOL!)
- My worth, as a coach and as a human, is not bound to whether or not I have an office space.
- I want more human interaction in my working life.
- I want more community in my work.
I want to be surrounded by inspiring people.
- I want to work in a space that inspires and nourishes me.
- I want to spend my days while working with my dog (this is not a new truth, but rather a reinforced one).
It’s funny, but saying YES to this new phase of my life and business by saying goodbye to my office space has already had a ripple effect of magic in my life!
After I told some women in my networking group that I was lonely and my office space reinforced this loneliness, not a week later and I got an invitation to join some super inspiring women for a monthly work day, in a gorgeous home, with a scheduled lunchtime for socializing, complete with all you can drink tea and coffee…and I could bring my dog too!
You cannot make this stuff up.
Magic is real when you say YES, when you honor your truth, and when you trust in what feels right even when you don’t know what the heck is going on.
So here I am, saying YES again to something new.
Saying YES to letting go of what was once a dream, even when I don’t see the entire staircase in front of me, because I trust that what’s coming is only going to be better than what’s been.
Sometimes saying YES actually means saying goodbye. And that’s ok.