You don’t have to be exhausted to want to rest more.
You don’t have to hit rock bottom to want to make changes in your life.
You don’t have to accept overwhelm in order to be a good mom.
You don’t have to put your desires on the back burner in order to be a generous and giving person.
You don’t have to make big changes in order to see big changes in your life.
You don’t have to live out all your dreams in order to live a dreamy life.
You don’t have to beat yourself up with tough love in order to motivate yourself.
You don’t have to feel guilty to want time alone.
You don’t have to be fearless in order to fear less and still do scary, hard things.
You don’t have to criticize your body to want to take better care of your body.
You don’t have to stop “doing” to want to slow down.
You don’t have to make drastic changes to want to live differently.
You don’t have to say yes in order to please people.
You don’t have to change who you are in order to be loved.
You don’t have to express anger to want to be heard.
You don’t have to be religious to want a deep, soulful connection with Spirit.
You don’t have to complete your to-do list in order to enjoy your life, here and now.
You don’t have to work hard in order to play hard.
You don’t have to feel “less than” to want to be more.
You don’t have to accept unkindess in order to be kind.
You don’t have to hate yourself in order to hold yourself accountable.
You don’t have to dim your light so other’s can shine theirs.
You don’t have to be someone you’re not to want to be everything to everyone.
You don’t have to pretend everything is fine in order to make others feel comfortable.
You don’t have to limit your own potential in order to fit into someone else’s idea of your life.
But here’s what I believe: you do have to know yourself, accept yourself and love yourself in order to live your most authentic and fulfilling life!
- Know yourself. Know your self. Know what your heart desires and what lights up your soul. Know what your body wants to fuel your precious life energy.
- Accept yourself with deep and loving compassion for the wildly messy, perfectly imperfect human you are.
- Love yourself. Treat yourself with kindness, respect and grace, always.
When you have all these three things, you have everything. You have self-awareness (body, mind and soul), you have compassion for yourself, and you treat yourself with kindness, respect, and love (like you would your own child or dearest friend).
When we love ourselves like this, life becomes easier, happier, and much more fulfilling.
Why? Because we no longer become the punching bag when things don’t work out as planned. We no longer blame ourselves for the “mess” around us. We stop making everyone else’s baggage mean that we are somehow inferior or failures or not good enough. Hell, we stop making our own baggage mean we’ll never be good enough.
Because you are good enough. We all are. Right here, right now. In this very moment. Full stop. Stop doubting it.
When we really take the time to know ourselves and develop enough self-awareness and skills to help us understand what triggers us into becoming screaming, impatient, angry monsters, we’re able to tap into a well of CALM and PERSPECTIVE.
Do not underestimate these two superpowers!
We know how to check in with our most authentic selves to get clear on what the hell just happened and then move forward with actionable tools to either solve or resolve the issue, all from a place of reflective and intentional dialogue. Can you imagine how good this feels and the impact this has on ALL your relationships, including the one with yourself?
When we give ourselves the compassion and space to fuck up and make mistakes, we give ourselves permission to not be perfect. Why? BECAUSE WE ARE HUMAN. What a relief!
And finally, when we really show ourselves LOVE…you know, the kind we so easily bestow upon our loved ones…we become worthy, good enough, and whole.
Our worth no longer depends on someone else’s idea/impression/judgment. Our worth comes from within.
Our value, for simply existing, becomes enough. Our messy, glorious lives become our everything and we become whole within ourselves when we fall in love with ourselves.
So I invite you to pause. Take a moment to consider how you could know, accept and love yourself more…starting today.
Make a decision today to make the investment of time, money or whatever way feels right to you.
- Write out what it would feel like to know yourself deeply and have tools to help you focus and stay on track with what’s most important to you, every single day.
- Explore what it would feel like to treat yourself and all your “flaws” with compassion instead of negative self-talk.
- What would it feel like to show-up for yourself with the kind of love and care you would give a dear friend when she’s going through a challenging time?
And finally, let yourself imagine what it would FEEL like to treat yourself NO MATTER WHAT with kindness, respect, and grace. How would your daily life change, your daily habits, change if you were to say kind things to yourself instead of disrespectful things?
For me, I feel lighter in my gut, happier and more energized in my step, less cranky (than before when I allowed the negative thought to drag me down) and a whole lot kinder and patient with my family too.
When you invest in our own well-being, you actually invest in the well-being of your loved ones!
Now that feels like a win-win!
If you need ideas or support about how to do this, email me at firstname.lastname@example.org. I’d love to explore it together.