Embrace who you are and your purpose will follow.
I know the ache of wanting to live a purposeful, meaningful life.
We seek, try things on, change jobs and adjust who we are, to find slight relief for a while until that familiar feeling of dissatisfaction and unfulfillment creeps in.
Whether it’s a job, a role, or simply a way of being in the world, we want to feel like we’re here doing what we’re meant to be doing.
To lay our heads down at night with the sweet feeling of satisfaction that comes from being fully ourselves while contributing in our own unique way to making the world a better place.
If this sounds like you, I am so glad you’re here! Keep reading.
How I understand and use the term purpose
(inspired by my mentor Parker J. Palmer)Purpose doesn’t come from a voice “out there” calling me to become something I am not. It comes from a voice “in here” calling me to be the person I was born to be.
Think of it not like a goal to be achieved but rather a gift to be received.
It’s about accepting the treasure of true self I already possess.
Have you always hungered to feel deeply connected to a sense of purpose in the world?
To live and contribute from a place of passion and service?
Me too!
When I was younger, I so often wished I’d had a calling to be something concrete like a doctor or chef.
Instead, I studied Philosophy as a way to engage in the bigger questions of life hoping it would help me find the answers I sought about who I was and what I was here for.
Flash forward to when I become a coach and I thought I was finally on the right path. Except eventually that same feeling of unfulfillment crept back in and I was so disappointed, again.
Why? Why? Why did this keep happening? I left my safe, secure, pretty great job to be here again?
What was wrong with me?!
Turns out…nothing was wrong with me. I was just missing a key piece of the puzzle.
Me.
I didn’t know that until you fully know and accept who you are in your wholeness, you can’t really be in your purpose.
What you need to know is that when we combine deep self-love and acceptance with a clear understanding of who we are on a soul and practical day-to-day level, then we become fierce with clarity, confidence, aliveness, and PURPOSE.
Finding your purpose isn’t about blowing up your life and moving to Bali to start anew. Or quitting a job that feels a little “meh” right now.
It’s about leaning into your truest self, in your current life and circumstances.
And, if ever big changes are needed to find the fulfillment you seek, you’ll at least make those decisions from a place of true inner knowing that will feel intentional, kind, and perfectly aligned for you.
More than anything, I want us all to have lives where we can be fully ourselves and do what we love.
Imagine the impact that would have on the sense of collective joy and purpose we would share!
But as we know, it’s not easy and here’s partly why.
With over a decade of advising and coaching all different kinds of people, I have learned that in order to be yourself, you have to see yourself. And it’s really hard to truly see ourselves without the help of someone else.
That’s where I come in. I help you do that.
Because when you truly know who you are, it’s so much easier to do what you love and live the deeply fulfilling and purposeful life you deserve.
You can read more about me and my story here.
“How you arrive at your true calling is an intricate and highly individual dance of discovery.”